Today I want to talk to you about How Optimism can Change your Life and Marriage. I thought about a few ideas and I want to share them with you.
First things first, I want to tell you a few things about me. I grew up in a family where there wasn’t so many happy moments or laughter, so I grew up as an introvert person, somehow serious who would not laugh so much and so easily.
When I was younger, I always wondered why my friends were always so happy and my laugh was somehow fake because I didn’t quite feel it. Now I know why.
I loved to be in the company of happy people (this always warmed my heart), but I would not consider myself a happy person.
I would not get used to joke or others to joke about me, I would get upset easily. (I mean kind jokes, from my friends)
These are deeper issues and the source comes way back from my childhood.
A few years ago I met a guy (who’s my husband now). He was always joking and laughing and I was so intrigued about that.
We started dating and he was very comfortable around me, and that made him joke and laugh all the time, he is such a happy person.
At that moment our characters kinda choked, because I was a more serious person, who would not laugh so much and he was the total opposite.
Then I realized that I’m missing the pleasures of life, of laughing with my boyfriend, friends and being a happy person.
And as I was saying in the last post, the one about love, you can find it here , this also takes work and exercise from your part.
If you’ve been a serious person all your life, it takes a lot of work to start being a happy one, but you can do it, I assure you.
Of course, I will never be as happy as my husband is, but I am a more happier person than I ever was before in my entire life.
I am looking now at my married life, my life with my husband and I am so grateful that I can laugh with him, that we can joke and be happy.
He is such a happy person, that you love to be in his company. He is this happy because he grew up in a family who knew to play and laugh together, he grew up in such a healthy family and I can see that in him. He is extrovert and he’s not afraid to laugh and have a good time.
Scientists have proved that an optimist person is happier, he feels better, he has better marriage and relationship with his friends or co-coworkers and has less stress.
Your type of character influences your entire life. Being a happy person who’s not afraid to laugh and have a good time, will be a more fulfilled person all his life.
Lastly, I will show you some of the benefits of being happy and the benefits of laughing with your husband and why it’s good to have a fun marriage.
I’ve seen what it’s like to have a crappy marriage, where you will not hear a laugh, and I promise you, it’s not good.
- when he makes you laugh when you don’t even feel like it, and you start laughing with him. You know this is one big reason you love him
- laughing together and having fun makes you not focus on the problems you might have, or insignificant things that don’t matter (not problems with each other, of course. If you have those kinds of problems, you should really talk)
- instead of arguing, be a team and work together, don’t be so serious, be more flexible
- when you start being a happier person, your marriage will bloom (if you have a healthy marriage)
- being a happier person makes you not hold grudges
- when you can play together and have fun, your kids will grow up feeling thankful for you, that their parents will not split up
- smiling at your husband makes him feel important and appreciated in your eyes and so loved
- when he makes your laugh, go with the flow and have a good time together
- if you are happy, you are more productive
- you will be happier with your work if you find something to be grateful about in it
- if you wake up with a happier heart, you will have a better day, even when problems arise in your day, you can resolve when you have a happy attitude.
Are you more of a serious person or the happy one? Do you agree with the points I highlight?